How and When to Renew Your Vows

How and When to Renew Your Vows

A few years or a few decades ago, you said your “I do’s”— and you’re still just as committed to your special someone as ever before. If you’d like to refresh or confirm that commitment, you may be considering a vow renewal ceremony. Explore the basic concept, plus a few details, including how and when to renew your vows.  

What Is a Vow Renewal Ceremony? 

A vow renewal is a reaffirmation of love and commitment between two people. You can repeat the same vows you took at the beginning of your marriage, or choose an altered version that better suits where you are today.  

When Should I Have a Vow Renewal Ceremony? 

Whenever you like! Vow renewals are often conducted at intervals of 2, 5, 10, 25, or 50 years, but couples can have one anytime they want, or not at all. Some couples decide to renew their vows after they’ve had children, after a difficult period in the relationship, or after an important milestone.  

As far as the date of the vow renewal, many couples elect to do it on the same date as their wedding, their anniversary. However, you can select any date that suits you.  

Is There an Officiant for a Vow Renewal? 

Technically, you don’t need an officiant, since the two of you are already legally married. However, many couples opt for an officiant of some type, whether it is a clergy member, a friend of the family, a relative, or someone else important to their lives. If you prefer, you can skip the officiant and simply say vows to each other.  

How Long Is a Vow Renewal Ceremony? 

Vow renewals are typically shorter than the original wedding ceremony, but the choice is up to you. If you would like to incorporate additional music, readings, or ceremony options, feel free to do so; but keep the ceremony short enough to avoid boring your guests.  

Should Guests Bring Gifts? 

Guest are not required to bring gifts to a vow renewal as they did at your wedding. Some may choose to do so, but there is no obligation.  

What Should Guests Wear? 

The vow renewal dress code should coincide with the theme or the level of formality of the event. For example, for a more elegant vow renewal ceremony, you should indicate formal or semi-formal attire on the invitation, whether explicitly or by choosing a style and wording that reflects the tone of the occasion. A more casual event could specify casual attire in the invitation wording or by the design of the invitation itself.  

What Should the Couple Wear? 

Sometimes, the couple will wear the same dress and tuxedo that they wore for their wedding. However, since body types tend to change as time passes, couples will often rent or purchase a new gown and tuxedo, or buy a cocktail dress and a suit appropriate for the event.  

A less formal vow renewal might include more casual attire, even a sundress for the bride and shorts and a light shirt for the groom.  

If you need an elegant, beautiful location for your vow renewal ceremony, consider Nanina’s in the Park. We offer tours of our gorgeous gardens and lovely ballrooms for your convenience, so contact us anytime to schedule a visit, or to ask about reserving a date for your special day.

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